Self-Love: Stop Comparing yourself.

✨ Hello! It’s been a long time coming, but your sis is back better than ever. I’ve really missed doing my blog posts and it’s been like a missing piece but life happens but we always return back to the things we love.

This blog post is here to remind you to stop comparing yourself and focusing on other peoples grass when you need to focus on your own grass & growth.

You may see other people winning, experiencing success and growth. Doing ten times better than you and achieving greatness. But that’s their life. That’s their path, plan and will.

We are all running our own race. We are planting our own fruits and grass. Trust your process and your growth.

You need to develop the ability to really and truly support other people and their wins. You will surely win. Be patient and believe. Love yourself enough not to give up. Love yourself enough to know that you have your own capabilities, gifts, talents, skills and aspirations. You need to love yourself to focus on improving yourself, your life and your destiny.

God didn’t put you on the planet to be bitter and be upset with the way your life is. You are alive and that is the biggest blessing that you have today. God allowed you to wake up by His grace & mercy. God blesses different people and provides different things for others. Your blessing may not be the same but stop focusing on what others have but what you have. Your life is beautiful.

Your perceptions on life is what you make it to be. Stop focusing on your neighbour’s. Remember where it is that you were many years, months or weeks ago. You’re growing & truly glowing. Trust in your process. Put the effort in but also enjoy the process. Work towards your goals.

Your life is beautiful and it’s a blessing to be alive. Not everyone has your vision or your gifts. Not everyone will experience the same things as you. You dont necessarily even need the things that other people have. You probably haven’t even worked that hard to taste the success someone has had. You only see the end result, not the journey.

Comparison leads to self-doubt, self-saboutage, greed, discouragement, envy, pessimism & sadness. You don’t deserve to be feeling like this. You should be filled with happiness and self-love.

At the end of the day, you should have tunnel vision and focus on the grass that you have. God has called you specifically and He has chosen you to do something that only you can do on this earth. Love yourself enough to know you’re capable and you’re worthy. Everyone is trying to run to the finish line. But slow and steady will always win the race.

It will be a hard and difficult process but don’t ever give up. Stop comparing yourself. Have fun and love yourself. Be your best friend, cheer yourself on and have fun.

[Romans 2:7 KJV|To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life:]

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Positivity: No rain No flowers.

✨ This is something that has been on my heart for ages. For a while. Maybe a couple of months. Sometimes the seasons I’m in are so torrential – heavy and never ending filled with rain.

But sometimes I think maybe I am in them for a reason and maybe i’m here because it’s purposeful and it’s necessary.

God places us in things and seasons for a specific reason and we need to find out why we are there. There’s never a time God does something without thinking or acknowledging the effects of me being there. He’s purposeful- He never will do something that I cannot handle. God is an all-knowing; omniscient God. He knows what’s going to happen to you in the next second, minute, month and years to come. Don’t think that where you are now is a mistake.

There’s times things are so hard and such a pain that I’m in agony some moments I want to escape or hide and I’m annoyed that I’m in the mess.

Currently the season I’m in now I am distressed every minute. Angry. Upset. University is killing me. It’s really exhausting me spiritually; emotionally; mentally and physically. I am tired. I cannot wait for it to be over but in the midst of the mess and chaos I am experiencing I am learning so much.

Sometimes the mess is where we find ourselves and we establish our reasons for doing things; plans and even peace occurs.

If you’re stuck you don’t have to stay there in the mess. You can escape and you can leave. You’re stuck because you think that you don’t have a plan or a reason to do things. You are putting things off but you have to stop. The times that you feel uncomfortable are the times you’re growing. Get unstuck by changing your thoughts; get out of the rut by planning; do the thing you’re putting off; breathe; leave the unnecessary mess and change your beliefs. Change the way things are happening and get out and live. Really live.

Being a perfectionist and wanting the best can sometimes be emotionally draining and disadvantageous because I continually strive and aim to be the best and I acknowledge that sometimes I have to stop and do what I am capable of. That I need to stop forcing and rely on the power and strength of God. I have to trust in Him continually because it’s not me that can do all these things that I want to achieve its all by His will and His grace alone.

When you notice that you’re growing through temptations; trials; hard and distressing times that’s God changing and moulding you into something better and greater. You are being changed into the woman or man you are meant to be. Don’t give up and stop where you are. You’re not a failure and the things that you have done don’t let them stop you from continuing because God loves you so much. He will never leave you nor forsake you and that’s one thing that I have learnt the past couple of months. God is really gracious and when I sometimes forget He is always there with me.

I wanna speak about failure. I’ve been feeling like a failure for so long and today is definitely the time I felt like I was one. When I perceive something and I want it to turn out the way I want and it doesn’t I automatically think I failed. When I think I haven’t done as good as I should or could or would have then I beat myself up.

Failure is inevitable and there’s a way to view and learn from failure. The way you did it wasn’t the way that it was meant to be. Try again. The next time you will learn from your mistakes. You will be better; stronger; skilled and experienced. Hungry and greater. Failure isn’t meant to knock you down or disappoint you.

Instead learn from it and keep it as a way to achieve the greatness and the things you know you can achieve.

The rain will always pour but that’s because it’s making you better and more stronger. It’s filling you with goodness and lessons.

You will shine. You will be stronger. You will be greater. You will blossom. You are capable. You’re not a failure. You’re not a sinner. You’re worthy. You’re beautiful. You’re healing. You’re kind. You’re capable.

Don’t give up whatever you do.

God is with you and He will help you. He is going to get you through this. He will be there to bring you to the other side. He is going to heal and deliver you. The rain is for a season; just as Jesus arose from the dead you will rise up too. Anything is possible.

Philippians 4:12‭-‬13 KJV| I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Motivation: Ur purpose for life.

You were placed on this earth for a reason. One of the most greatest moments on this earth is realising your purpose on earth. Realising why it is that you were placed here by God.

Understanding your calling, understanding what you have to do. Understanding that there is something greater in this life than what you think it is. Life isn’t supposed to be the norm of what society tells us to. We aren’t meant to conform to the images of the world and what they tell us that we should be doing. We shouldn’t do what they think is good for us. We shouldn’t flow with the ways of life and live in a way dictated by our circumstances and our emotions and out lack of belief.

From a young age I’ve always been like I want to care for people because I’m a caring and nice person. I’m able to help people. Ranging from wanting to be a doctor because of my dad’s influence to a midwife because of my teachers influence.

Life is about purpose. God placed us here so that we are to live the purpose that He has called us to live. We are here to live for a reason. We are all different, nobody’s life is the same. We may have the same experiences and same things in common. But we are different.

When God created you in your mother’s womb He had a plan for you; He knew what He was doing in your life. God equipped you from the day He equipped you to find the purpose in yourself – not in others. God has blessed you and He has promises for you. Jesus Christ had a purpose and still has a purpose in this world. He died for you so that you could live. He will come back to this world and defeat the enemy. He overcame death.

When I say you have a purspoe you do. Whether old or young; weak, strong, educated or not. God will use you accordingly. There’s something deep down that you know you’re good at and only you are good at no one else may be.

There’s something on your heart to always do and to accomplish. You’ve had the same new years resolution but you’ve not been able to accomplish. You’ve been procrastinating.

YOU know that you are capable to teaching, singing, writing, doing a task, making money, helping people.

Your purpose is only for you to find and only for you to accomplish.

YOU have to do what God is telling you. You have to fulfil your purpose and your plan here on earth. Don’t live life just for the sake of living with no aim or nothing driving you because you think life is against you rather than for you. Get out of that negative belief system.

You have something to achieve so find it. Don’t wait til you think there’s a right time or for something magical to happen. Don’t waste time. Don’t go to the grave unfulfilling of your purpose and then your purpose goes to the grave with you.

YOU can do anything that you are determined to do. With strong work, resilience and belief in oneself and the Almighty. You can do it.

Walk in your purpose and don’t look back and most importantly don’t give up.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 KJV
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

2019: New Year, New growth. 

🍃✨ Happy New Year amazing people. Hope you all celebrated your year in style, with amazing people and made amazing memories. 

I am excited about this new year. 2018 was hard and eventful to say the least. A lot of terrible moments, resentment and procrastination. But I’m grateful God graced me to see another year. 
I would like to say that this is the year of victories. This is solely a year of success and greatness. A year filled with self-discipline, growth, money, hard work, gratitude, achieving things that seem impossible. 

Everything that we failed to accomplish in 2018 due to failure, lack of belief, laziness, resistance, lack of money and lack of clarity has stopped. 

This is not the time to repeat the same old mistakes. How are you expecting to see change when you are doin the same thing. You cannot expect a flower to grow when you are not giving it the right and beneficial things. Therefore if you want your life to change, make it happen. 

Be different. No-one in this life will achieve your goals for you. No-one can help you to be great apart from God and yourself. Have faith in God and know that He will bless you. Paint your life wonderfully. Success and greatness is yours. 

2018 I was resisting change, afraid to come out of my comfort zone because I felt like I knew I could be successful but it scares me. Absolutely not today. The main thing I’m focusing on is achieving that success. I’m hungry for it. 

It’s time for you to make goals. 

– write down everything you want to achieve. 

– create step-by-step guidelines of when you want to achieve the goal by. 

– set deadlines for when you need to achieve them. 

DONT SLACK WITH IT. You want success and change don’t fail to plan or be lazy. 

– learn your triggers: what leads to your bad habits? what prevents you from change? what causes laziness and self-doubt? 

-learn about your triggers and do everything to prevent them happening. 

It is okay and inevitable to fail. Failure sadly happen. You have to learn from these mistakes and failures. Let it guide you and drive you. Once you fail don’t stay down – get back up and be a conqueror. 

Wishing you all the best, with success, growth and love. Be the absolute best. May God bless you, may He be with you. May you win. 💛

Self-Love: Be Kind.

💓🌺💫 Sometimes we treat ourselves badly, dwelling in sadness and hatred at the things that we aren’t, what we have, what we look like. We spend most of our times hating us but loving others. 

We spend our time loving and caring for family members, lovers and strangers. This is one important form of love that does matter. 

But it’s confusing and sad to see we usually despise what we look like but yet we end up complimenting and adoring our friends who may look like us or are completely different.

We support people and cheer them on but we are hard on ourselves and unsupportive of our own dreams.

Loving and helping people is what we are all aiming to do because it’s important and kind to do so because Jesus loved and cared for every single person – always preaching, teaching, healing, helping and loving everyone – even sinners. He died for all of mankind so we can receive salvation. Jesus cares about others. 

Just as Jesus cared about others He also hopes that we walk in the fullness of life, the gift, purpose and love that He has given us so graciously. 

As you look at how you support people, support yourself too. 

Your body was created the way it was and there’s no mistake or issue with the way you are because you’re beautifully and wonderfully made. 

Embrace all that you have, love you and admire God’s work. Compliment yourself and appreciate yourself at your highest and lowest. 

Work everyday towards being kind to yourself. 

Support yourself if nobody else does. Be your own best friend. Cheer for you and how much you are changing and evolving and loving you. 

The dream you’ve been putting off because you don’t feel worthy or good enough – make a plan and achieve it. 

That outfit you wanted to buy but haven’t because you told yourself it doesn’t suit you – buy it and flaunt in it. 

Get up, dress up, be kind and love freely. 

Love you and everything about you. 

It’s the time to embrace, the time to love, the time to be happy, the time to adore all that you have been despising. 

Be kind to you. It won’t happen overnight nor will it happen in a instant but when the time is right and when you work hard and trust God above all – you’ll love your fabulous self because God loves you and He gave His life for you. 

Psalm 139:14 KJV | I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

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Positivity: choices.

🌻💫🍃 Everything in life is all down to the choices that we decide to make in our own personal lives.

We can choose to decide to go down the path they will better us, help, enrich, change and benefit us.

OR

We can choose the path that will lead to negative consequences, hurt, belittle, damage and ruin us.

We always have the chance to do the good things and to be led to make a positive outcome in our lives and our worlds. Take ahold and grasp this opportunity.

There’s been instances whereby I know doing that specific thing will not help me anyhow but I still go and do that. Potentially leading to negative outcomes.

Everything that you set out to do, do all for the glory of God. God will lead you and guide you, obey Him and follow His perfect will. Don’t do whatever you feel like you should do because sometimes the things you hear or the people that are in your life do not know what is the best thing for you to do. God knows the best thing for you, He created you and He called you.

Make the best choices for your life that will help you currently wherever you are. If you’re meant to be studying and meant to be working hard for that goal that you want to achieve. Go and do it. You won’t feel like it but the end result of that great choice you made will impact you and the good fruits will show.

Your choices should only come from you, with prayer and with advice from those whom are wise should help you. At the end of this day, your life is for you and you can and will make it the best that you can possibly make it so make the correct choices.

If you have made bad choices currently or in the past, heal from them and if it has hurt you, it’s in the past now and in the present breathe and let go of all that negativity and tension and fear that is in you.

You should choose the best thing for you alone, choose what you desire to do, choose to be positive, choose to be happy, choose to be free, choose to change your life now, choose to no longer hold on to the things or people that will not help you.

You may make choices that have been of no benefit to you, choices that have hurt you. Choices that has ruined your happiness but it may only be temporary. God will always be with you and joy comes in the morning, wipe them tears and know that you’re loved unconditionally and God knows the course of your life so your own choices that have been negative won’t impact you any longer because God makes us new and gives us mercies every single morning.

You choose, so choose greatness, choose life and choose happiness.

Ephesians‬ ‭5:15‬ ‭KJV ‬‬[“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,”] 🌻💫🍃

Motivation: Push.

🍃🌻💫 I’m here right now to tell you to fight, go harder, keep pushing forward, you’re half way now, do not stop.

There may be many hurdles that you’re facing right now and there’s going to be many things ahead of you that will come crashing down because it’s life, and it sucks. But just know that in the time of struggle and darkness you can hide and go away, or you can blossom and you can come out of the darkness with the light shining and you rising above it.

God is here to guide you, protect you, He’s here and He’s your Father He wants you to win, He knows it’s hard that’s why we go to Him whenever we are tired, feeling alone, we are weary and the storm and temptations get too much. It’s not by your own strength, it’s by God alone. We can do all things with Christ Jesus.

Sometimes our goals seem extremely hard and incapable of achieving because we make think that they’re too hard. But here’s a train of thought – why did you set these goals in the first place? why did you desire to do this? who are you doing it for? what’s stopping you from achieving it.

Many people set goals and because of the lack of patience and the lack of belief in themselves and in their goals they stop abruptly. They no longer want to or feel like they cannot go all the way to the end. Stop. Take a breather. Know that you can and you will achieve all that you want. Do not under any circumstances give up.

Be patient because the good things as we know really do take time, a whole load of time. But success is around the corner and it’s close and it’s waiting and you will finally see, feel, hear, touch and taste that sweet goodness of success.

Don’t limit yourself and underachieve. So many people stop and give up and do less of what is required of them and what they can do. You got to push and you have to force it and you got to fight.

Push on above the circumstances, above the failures, above the trials and the negativity.

God knows what you’re capable of and He knows what you can do that’s why you desire the goals that you have. God has plans for you to prosper and succeed, not meant for evil or to harm you, your enemies and your circumstances will drag you down, but always have that faith in Him. Trust in Him. Believe in Him. He loves you always and forever.

Push on girls and boys. Keep pushing and don’t stop however long it takes, go to the end of that finish line.

Jeremiah 29:11 KJV [“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”]

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